Matt, Valerie and I are in Missouri again. To attend the funeral of my sweet nephew- which is more awful than you can imagine. It is totally surreal. below is from my blog.
As you can imagine, this has been truly awful.
I think all of my and my family's emotions have run the gamut of extremes- anger, frustration, guilt (I woke up about the same time Jenn put him to bed and did not sleep the rest of the night. Looking back, I kept saying "why didn't I call then?!" but who calls at 3 am? ), sadness, dispair... and now, a measure of acceptance and even peace...
Please pray for me, I am speaking at the funeral. I do not think many are practicing Christians, so I want to speak to every single person's heart without being "wierd" or alienating anyone in attendece, but I also need to be very clear about where Gavin is and that he can be with his mom and dad again. Please, please pray for me.
Below is the obituary, and the message sweet Jennifer posted on her website that touched me deeply.
Gavin Reed Scott
THE MORNING SUN
Gavin Reed Scott, 3 weeks old, of Pittsburg, KS, died Saturday, March 29, 2008 at Mt. Carmel Regional Medical Center in Pittsburg, KS.
Gavin was born March 7, 2008, in Pittsburg, KS to Jennifer (Weber) and Michael Scott.
Survivors include his parents; maternal grandparents Melinda and Jeff Weber of Arma, KS; paternal grandparents Dianne Schneider of Liberal, MO and Keven Schneider of Springfield, MO; maternal great grandparents Shirley and Jim Weber of Joplin, MO and Nina Leslie of Arma, KS; paternal great grandmother Ruby Hart of Lamar, MO and Donna Schneider of Springfield, MO, along with a host of aunts, uncles and cousins.
Gavin is preceded in death by his paternal great grandfathers Gerald Hart and Marvin Schneider and along with maternal great grandfather Thomas H. Leslie.
Funeral services will be 1:00pm, Thursday, April 3, 2008 at Bath-Naylor Funeral Home, 522 S. Broadway in Pittsburg, KS with Fr. Robert McElwee officiating. Burial will follow in Garden of Memories Cemetery in Pittsburg, KS. The family will receive friends from 7-8pm on Wednesday at the funeral home. The family suggests expressions of sympathy be in the form of memorials to help defray final expenses. Memorials may be left at or mailed to Bath-Naylor Funeral Home, 522 S. Broadway in Pittsburg, KS 66762. E-mail condolences may be left at our website www.bathnaylor.com.
First I just want to say thank you to everyone for their support and good wishes and everything else. For those that don't already know we have had an extremely devastating weekend. Sometime between 3:30 when I last put him to bed and a little after 8 A.M. Saturday morning, me and Mike's son Gavin passed away due to SIDS. The only real peace we have is that they say he went painlessly and peacefully and just went to sleep and didn't wake up. Also that the last thing he heard was good night sweet Mommy and Daddy love you. As you can imagine it has been very hard but again thank you so very much for all the kind words and thoughts. I will post another bulletin whenever we find out details and arrangements for his funeral. Again thank you and please keep us in your prayers.
A Little History:
Our story begins in Pocatello, Idaho, circa 1972, when the lovely Debby Christensen agreed to a first, though fateful date with admirer, David Croshaw. Long story-short, he bade her follow him, and they went arm-in-arm to the Logan, Utah temple for establishment of an eternal family unit, Generation 1, on May 23 1973.
From their first blissful summer in Salt Lake City, educational pursuits took them to Provo/Orem, Utah, birthplace of Leslie and Rebecca, and to San Francisco/Oakland California, birthplace of Colin and Matt. Then, for establishment of livelihood, expansion of the tribe with Abby and Dana, and for raising/unifying of Generation 2, it was back to the roots in Pocatello for a rewarding sojourn.
In time, driven by a raging, but commonly shared sense of adventure and independence, one-by-one, Generation 2 escaped the homeland to distant regions of the country and the world, each ultimately developing their own tribal expansions by pairing with worthy mates and initiating Generation 3.
Now sensing fulfillment of their purpose in Pocatello, Generation 1 has also left those roots and transplanted to Cascade Idaho, from which base, they anticipate more abundant contact with The Posterity, Generations 2 and 3, in the future. That contact however, awaits fulfillment of a call to LDS missionary service in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, wherein they hope to help the state of the world by sharing the love of Jesus Christ.
So now, including Generation 0 (Grandma and Grandpa Christensen) home base includes Yuma, Arizona, Pocatello, Idaho, Cascade, Idaho, Vancouver, BC, Fort Lauderdale, Florida, Spokane, Washington, Boise, Idaho, Los Angeles, California, back to Boise, Idaho, and on and on (Generation 3+) to infinity.
Our Mission Statement:
This is the blog of our eternal family unit. Initiated years ago, it served well as a journal, but even more so, as an archive of our personal interaction. It was a gathering place, a confabulation instrument, a unifying force for four generations of widely dispersed and progressively prolific posterity, and their valued associates. Though it served these purposes well for many years, it eventually took a back seat to new-kids-on-the-block, Facebook, and Instagram, and was sadly forgotten.
We now move to resurrect this blog with an added functional purpose of archiving the missionary experiences of Generation 1, of their movements and activities as they participate with The Gathering of Israel in the land northward. In so doing, we hope that via their own comments and posts, this blog will again serve to gather and unify the posterity and their friends.
As in the past, that the young and vibrant may know the old and tired, that enduring bonds may be fostered and maintained, that experience and encouragement may be openly shared, that posterity may embrace truth, and that hearts may be knit together, we must resist detachment despite our geographic divergence. We shall do so here.